4 Reasons Why Reading Erotic Stories Can Improve Your Marriage1233223
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If you are like most people, that title might shock you at first. How could reading erotica benefit the relationship between a husband and wife? The truth is that the real cause for most of the issues that couples have, both married and unmarried, is a lack of trust. Hiding anything, whether that be erotic stories, drugs, porn, or another relationship, will ultimately lead to mistrust, deception, and flat out hatred. Erotic stories can help your marriage if you both know that it is being read.
Note that I didn't say that BOTH individuals in the relationship need to read erotica. It's my belief that having both people participate will result in greater benefits for the marriage, but even if just one spouse reads erotic stories, a positive effect can definitely occur. As long as both individuals are open-minded, considerate, and full of love, then indulging in erotica can add that extra spark that many couples have either lost or never really had in the first place.
The great thing is that technology has made getting erotica much more of a private matter. There's no need to go to an adult bookstore. Yikes, just the thought of what's “lurking” inside as prevented countless of wives from purchasing the erotic books they were looking for. You don't even have to worry about an accident happening in the mail, and your mailman or neighbors finding out how spicy your tastes in literature are.
And who cares what turns you on? Whether you prefer the straight-laced, “normal” kind of sexual encounter, or would rather have something pure painful, with leather and chains, what you crave doesn't matter. It's your ability to PRIVATELY fulfill your needs to be turned on by erotic words that is important.
Amazon's Kindle was a game-changer. Yes, there are other reading products (ie. The Nook) and reading apps, but the Kindle made it ok, even “hip,” to anonymously gorge on erotic stories without anyone ever knowing. On the train, at the beach, while on lunch break, at any time, you can turn on your Kindle and be secretly swept away to some fantastic, sensual reality. And you can do this without anyone ever suspecting.
4 Reasons Why Reading Erotic Stories Can Improve Your Marriage
1. A Shot of Passion
Life is filled with stress. Most couples tend to keep all this stress inside until they get home to their spouses and “let it all out.” Although this may feel like a relief, the effect that it is having on the relationship may be detrimental. Nobody likes to feel “dumped” on, and this is especially true when both spouses have their own stresses to unload. Reading erotic stories is a healthier way to handle stress. Instead of having to talk out all the problems of the day, sitting down to read some erotica will make most people go from stressed-out to turned-on within minutes. A turned-on spouse is much more attractive than one that's stressed.
2. Keeps Sex on the Mind
The mind can be a predictable organ. The more time it spends on something it finds pleasurable, the more time it will spend thinking about it. Reading erotic stories can be VERY pleasurable. And if both individuals in the relationship are reading erotica, then this phenomenon can be exponentially greater. Some of the most sexually active and satisfied married couples that I know are the ones where both couples not only read erotic stories, but also share which parts of the stories really get them aroused.
3. Seeing The Greener Garden
Whenever one person commits to another, there is almost always some form of wondering if the “grass is greener in the neighbor's garden.” Meaning, there's always that concern that you may be missing out on an enjoyable sexual encounter that your current committed relationship would not allow. Being able to read sensual stories let's the reader be able to temporarily step into the skin of someone else. If you always had a curiosity about being in a threesome but weren't sure if it was something that would be best for you and your marriage, you could read numerous stories involving threesomes of every variety. The popularity with erotica is that it allows you to “test the waters” without ever getting wet. For married couples, this can be essential in removing lingering doubts that they may have without jeopardizing the relationship.
4. Learn New Moves
A common complaint that married couples have is that over time the sex can get a little stale. The same foreplay. The same positions. No one likes to continue doing something that is boring, and that certainly includes the act of intercourse. Everyone can learn a few new moves and positions. And trust me, there will be so many ideas that you will get from reading erotica that you would NEVER think of on your own. So don't just read a lot of erotic stories, but real a lot of different types of erotica. The more you read, the more moves and ideas you can store away until needed.
Thankfully, the general public's perception of erotica has softened over the last few years. The massive popularity of the 50 Shades series and growing Kindle/smartphone reading has made this genre of literature much more acceptable and even respected. Strong marriages are built on foundations of trust, loyalty, and openness. Couples that read erotic stories, both alone and together, can help bring the fires of desire back into the relationship, as well as develop a much closer emotional bond.
About The Author:
Connie Cummings is the author of the popular erotica series called “Alphabet Sex Stories.” If you are looking for words to get you turned on, be sure to visit her blog here:
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